Circle > Meet
the Women > Molly
of Birth: 1962
Place: Bloomfield Hills, Michigan
Hobbies & Interests:
My kids, Greyhound Rescue and Adoption,
Pet therapy, Yoga...and of course, Exotic Dancing....
Movie: Anything romantic,
old is preferable
Food: Pizza, Mexican, Thai, anything spicy
Place: Moody Beach, Maine
Why did you originally take
the "Art of Exotic Dancing" class?
Why did I originally take the class?
At 36, I found myself very much in the "mom"
mode. Although my children give me great joy and purpose,
I felt as though a part of me was getting lost in the
shuffle. People referred to me as "so-in-so's Mom",
or "Bob's wife" and that had me wanting to
define "me" more clearly. So, I took a deep
breath, pierced my navel and looked through The Learning
Studio's catalog to see what class struck my fancy!
Out from the pages of this catalog, jumped "Exotic
Dancing 101, a Learning Studio sellout!". Figuring
this would be a unique way to spice up my marriage (and
get me out of the house for a few nights!), I dialed
the phone. I asked the pertinent questions about what
would be expected of me… like, "do I have
to be young and in good shape", "What do I
wear?" and a bunch of other unsure, nervous questions.
I was assured that I would love it and that my physical
shape had NOTHING to do with the class. So I signed
up and anxiously waited for the classes to start.
The class itself was very scary at
first. We were these conservative, "normal"
women taking a class that was in no way "ordinary".
A class created from a taboo topic that makes a lot
of people uneasy. So you can imagine this group of women,
all ages, all sizes, all walks of life, all strangers,
looking petrified. Then the instructor bounded in, with
a smile, great energy and the desire to teach us to
be women who are comfortable in their own skin. The
Exotic Dancing part was just a jumping off point.
The video process itself was terrifying.
When I was asked to tryout, I was taken back to High
School cheerleading tryouts. Tryouts I had practiced
months for but I never even came close to making the
squad. I wanted so badly to finally make the squad.
I did. It became a milestone in my life. I met 8 of
the most beautiful, admirable, inspiring women, who
became my teachers, my supporters, my friends. Together
we've created a squad like no other!
The video gave me an opportunity to
shed fears, phobias and issues that I had made peace
with but never really wanted in my life. The gawky girl
with straight hair and braces fell to the background
and I began to replace her with a sensual, beautiful,
confident woman. Some days I look in the mirror and
wonder where I have been hiding. The changes it has
brought about are endless. I find myself more often
saying "no", so as not to overburden my already
chaotic life. I am surrounding myself with people who
help me grow, not those who suck the life force from
me. I find myself striving for what I need and what
I want. I am making choices without asking for permission
or for approval. All this, from a spur of the moment
class and a video project? Yep, it was the start…I
had all the pieces, AOED helped me to see it was okay
to put them together and become a whole being. Now,
I am still a wife, I am still a mother and an AOED instructor.
I feel that I am better at all facets of my life because
I have started to believe in me.